Their Stories: Guadalupe (Lupe) Flores

I found out about My Safe Harbor through the Anaheim Harbor Family Resource Center. I started attending Mother’s Club and I got to know some of the other moms who attended. I had struggled with my self-esteem for many years and I lacked confidence in myself. When I was little I was often told that I wasn’t capable, I wasn’t pretty, and I wasn’t intelligent. As a result, trying new things was always difficult for me.

Before SFI, I thought I was taking my family down the right path, but I quickly learned there was so much I did not understand and I needed to make changes. It’s difficult to put into words the many ways my life has changed because of that intense experience.

Let me give you an example. I have a whole new way of thinking when it comes to disciplining my children. Before SFI, I would yell and sometimes hit my children with the hope that they were going to do what I wanted them to do, but in reality my home felt out of control. In SFI we not only had helpful information and tips, but we shared what was going on in our families and learned from each other as well. Today, I understand how important it is to communicate well, to listen, and have clear expectations for my kids as they grow into responsible adults. It’s been difficult for them. They are not accustomed to following rules, meeting expectations, and accepting consequences. We have all learned the importance of making good decisions and facing the consequences of our actions, the good and the bad. We are working together to build a stronger and happier family.

I am determined to be a better mother and woman and to have a better life. I love my children and I foresee a future where they will not only be competent professionals, but good people with good values who will respect others. My ultimate dream for them is that when the time comes for them to have their own productive families, they will be happy with themselves.

Perhaps the most important thing from SFI for me is that I now believe I am worthy, I am capable, and more importantly, I am not alone. I have a lot of new friends who have come into my life who support, encourage, and convince me that I can achieve my goals and make life better for me and  my children. My Safe Harbor is now MY Safe Harbor. It feels like family.