Their Stories: Patricia Moltavo

When I first came to My Safe Harbor I don’t think I knew what I was looking for. I thought my life was boring. I wasn’t being productive. I had no dreams, no motivation, no direction, and I was so unhappy. My children were getting older and didn’t seem to need me as much and I often felt useless. I was invited by a friend to come visit MSH, but didn’t expect much. I figured classes would be boring and that I wouldn’t be back…I just didn’t know how to say no to my friend!

I was so wrong!  I used to be timid and very quiet. Making friends was very difficult for me and I rarely spoke up and said what I was thinking about anything. But from the very first day, I started to see that it was ME who needed to change. It was going to be up to me to make my life interesting and rewarding. I was challenged to ask myself what I really wanted and what I was willing to do to get it. I had never asked myself that question – I was just waiting for someone else to fix things.

It’s amazing that in just a few months I moved from being negative, insecure, unable to communicate, frustrated at home, and feeling bad about myself to someone who is actively taking responsibility for my life and making it what I want it to be. Now I can talk to people easily, I enjoy making friends, and I’m so much more confident. I know how to set goals and reach them and maybe most important – I can make decisions…and they really are MY decisions. What a great gift that is for me. Before SFI I didn’t know how to say no and I was so passive that I let everyone else decide for me. I feel so much more in control of my life.

It’s interesting how much my family has seen the change. Our family life has improved so much. We communicate well, they respect me so much more, we do more things together, and we really enjoy being a family. My oldest son notices it most. We used to argue all the time…about everything. Now, I can control my emotions and communicate my expectations clearly and he knows I will follow through. He knows I mean what I say.

But the biggest change for me was moving from feeling worthless to feeling truly loved. I felt that God didn’t love me and I was missing that love. Over and over I was reminded that I am loved, that I have value, and that I am a child of God. That made me more willing to try new things and to risk change because I knew I was not alone. He would guide me, others would support me, and through everything He would remain by my side.

I’m so grateful to the people who make MSH happen. Please don’t stop! This really changes lives and helps families. I love being here and I want to keep learning and building more relationships. I know that I as grow, God will use me to help others grow, too. I want to meet other women and help them understand that God loves them and to tell them: If I can change, you can change, too!