I was referred to MSH from an Anger Management Class at the Anaheim Harbor Family Resource Center. Denes Garcia approached me and it sounded wonderful. I had been having problems with my husband and children and just about anything would trigger my anger. I was looking for help to manage all that anger in my house. It felt like I was in a constant fight with all of them! I had no idea how to make it better. I was desperate to figure out a better way to handle it all. I was depressed and suffered from anxiety because I felt isolated and had no one to talk to about it.
SFI really opened my eyes. I quickly realized the only person I could change was myself, so I decided to get informed and focus on ME! Little by little I was able to apply the practical tools and start making changes at home. The way I looked at my family changed so much. When I gave up trying to control them all, it was a HUGE relief. I became more patient and changed the way I communicated. I listened more and tried to understand their point of view. I learned to love them with their flaws and with their virtues. I also learned to love myself and learned that it was important for me to take care of myself before I could take care of them. I still have lots of work to do, but I am confident that I can keep moving forward because I have the tools to be successful.
Overall, SFI gave me a better perspective for better relationships. I learned to include my family in day-to-day things, to delegate around the house, and get everyone involved. I stopped feeling sorry for myself and acting like a victim. I learned to say no without feeling guilty, to get my time and home organized, and to ask for help. My son especially noticed the changes. “You’re not angry, Mom. You’re not yelling all the time. You seem really happy!” And who is the one who changed? Me!
I am so grateful for having been here. I’m sure God sent me here to find out I was not alone. I want to stay connected to MSH so I can keep growing, but also so I can help other women find out that they are not alone. That made such a difference for me. I know I can keep working on me because MSH is like my extended family and it’s a safe place to grow.